A Spiritual Guide to Battling Sex Addiction by Tito Adesanya

Author:Tito Adesanya
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2016-03-23T14:06:25+00:00

Chapter 5

Thoughts – Desires – Actions

In previous chapters we discussed the important matters of self-awareness, self-regulation and self-discipline. You could argue that these three issues form the nucleus of any potential remedies to the illness of sex addiction. If you were, then, to examine the following layer of this restorative nucleus, you would also find another trio of addiction counteragents that also need to be digested.

An individual’s thoughts, desires and actions are essentially the offspring of self-awareness, self-regulation and self-discipline. I say this because without possessing the core fundamentals of the three ‘self’s, an individual will never truly be able to purify or control their thoughts, desires and actions.

Apart from the three ‘self’s, it is key for a sex addict thoroughly to decontaminate their thoughts, desires and actions in order for them to have any real chance of overcoming their addiction. From a corporeal perspective, the ripple effect of circumstances always begins with an individual’s thoughts; this is where everything begins, from the words we speak to the deeds we do. As an individual proceeds persistently to mediate on a certain thought; that thought will subsequently transform into a desire. At this stage, it now becomes something the individual compulsively craves. When a thought has materialised into a desire, if a human being is not strong enough at this point to reverse the escalating process, it’s likely that this desire will become an eventual action.

So evidently, a recovering sex addict’s primary objective is to be able swiftly to eradicate any indecent sexual thoughts as soon as they enter the mind. A positive domino effect occurs if an addict is able to accomplish this pursuit – because if your thoughts are clean, your desires will consequently be clean, and if your desires are clean then your actions will inevitably be clean also. ‘Easier said than done,’ I hear some of you grumble, but with the three ‘self’s all working together, the task of immediately removing an indecent sexual thought from one’s mind becomes more attainable.

Being self-aware allows a sex addict to accept and prepare for the fact that the mind is bound to occasionally – or frequently – initiate thoughts of an impure sexual nature. Being able to self-regulate enables a sex addict to make the conscious decision repeatedly to try to remove these vulgar thoughts from their mind without hesitation. And being self-disciplined empowers an addict ceaselessly to commit to the ejection of these thoughts, even though they may continually knock at the mind’s door.

Allowing an inappropriate sexual thought to develop into an inappropriate sexual desire puts an individual in a highly hazardous situation. At this second stage it becomes substantially more difficult to halt and reverse the brisk flowing momentum of an operational train, meaning it is quite likely, then, for that niggling and tasteless sexual desire to blossom into an ill-judged sexual action.

It comes as no surprise that the vast majority of individuals who have been prosecuted for the vilest sexual crimes are later found to possess pornography on their computers that is directly related to their specific crimes.

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